Ineffective Modes

The red zones all emanate from outdated experiences.

Criticizing Mode - communicates a "You're not OK" message. When in this mode you will believe that others cannot do things as well as you can, or perhaps only some certain chosen people can. If you lead from this position you are unlikely to develop a loyal supportive team or culture.
Over-Indulging/Inconsistent Mode - communicates a "You're not OK" message. When in this mode the person will often do things for others which they are capable of doing for themselves. As a leader we might also be inconsistent in our style - changing our behaviour in unpredictable and apparently random ways.
Compliant / Resistant Mode - expresses an "I'm not OK" or "I'm not OK and You're Not OK" message. When in this mode we over-adapt to others and tend to experience such emotions as depression or unrealistic fear and anxiety. Even when 'resisting' we are not actually free to think for ourselves as we are reacting to someone and believing that we need to 'resist'. When in this mode we are unlikely to make good team members and will be highly stressed if we have to manage others.
Immature Mode - in this mode we run wild with no boundaries. Here we express a "You're not OK" message. At work we tend to not to take responsibility for our actions and are unlikely to progress as we need a great deal of management in order to focus our energy and keep boundaries.

Effective Modes
Accounting Mode - communicates We're OK messages. This mode operates appropriately in the here-and-now and has integrated the positive aspects of the historic parenting and the archaic childhood experiences. As this mode is here-and-now we choose which of the other effective aspects or modes of behaviour to draw from, dependent on the situation. When stable in this mode we respond appropriately rather than flipping into an archaic or historic mode.
Incorporated aspects of the Accounting Mode: All of the different incorporated aspects communicate "I'm Ok and You're OK".
Nurturing - When in this aspect we are caring and affirming.
Structuring - This is the boundary setting aspect, offering constructive criticism. In this aspect we are caring whilst firm.
Cooperative - From this aspect we learn the rules to help us live with others.
Playful - This is the creative, fun loving, curious and energetic aspect. We can confront people playfully as a way of dealing with a difficult situation. This can diffuse a potential problem and get the message across.

When working with others we can choose where we come from. Effective communication will come from the green Accounting mode. If someone else invites us to go into a red mode we don't have to go there, we can cross the transaction and come from green.

Behavioural Modes:   Diagram and Model